Just ask!



By Olaleye Boluwatife Ezekiel

I couldn’t describe the feeling but I felt free within me.


 It looked like an impossible task, like that was how I was going to go on to be all my life but I came out conquerous.


It was just too great in my life that my silence was beginning to make people view me as foolish, but I wasn’t, I just couldn’t open my mouth


Those days when I didn’t have enough money on me to take me home from school but because of the fear of asking, the fear that I might get embarrassed, I would keep mute and trek home... 


Even as the practicing journalist that I am, fear was still there. While others would do a vox pop within a matter of, presumably, fifteen minutes, I would use almost hours, spending most of my time walking about like a vagabond, asking myself, “should I ask this man? Should I ask this woman?” afraid to ask, only to realize that when I take the courage, the highest I would receive is “Sorry, but I am not in the mood to talk, maybe next time”.


They didn’t slap me for God sake, they didn’t even take bottles or stones to throw at me just because I wanted to interview them, so why the heck was I afraid?

Being able to interview just four to five people was like winning the Grammys for me when it was a “normal thing” for others.


I just can’t forget the days of countless regrets, the countless opportunities that slipped away, I just simply can’t bury the immeasurable insults I received just because I couldn’t ask.


However, the day I desperately needed data connection to do an assignment kicked started the beginning of the end of the fear of asking


But look at me now, I can proudly say I have overcame that fear. They say a closed mouth is a closed destiny and believe me, I have gotten to realize how true that maxim is.


Are you also a timid person like I once was? Whether you are a boy or girl, common, just ask! If you are stranded and you don’t ask, sorry, but that is how you will remain.


I am imploring you out there to develop the confidence. I know it is not something that can be fulfilled in a day but just try and take a step and you will find out that in no time, you are at the top of the stairs already.


Being silent will only keep bringing you pain and regret so, break the chain!

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